When to start dating after divorce with kids
There are many things to consider when making the choice to begin dating after your divorce.
Most professionals agree that parents should keep their dating relationships private and away from children until the relationship is serious. What you should avoid though is introducing your children to every person you date after your divorce.With teens (15-20) it is important to be honest about your actions. It's been long enough after the divorce that I am ready to meet some new people.I'm wondering how you feel about that." Since your teens are also likely dating, it is important to talk with them about how it may be awkward to have a parent dating at the same time. How will my children be affected by my decision to date?For example, "I'm going to have dinner with a man/woman that I met at work.We're going to talk for a few hours after dinner and then I'll be home. Chances are good that he or she already has a good idea of what dating is all about! For example, "I'm going out on a date with (person's name) on Friday.Dating after divorce - even the words fill some divorced parents with dread.
The idea of getting back into the dating scene after years being married is daunting at best.
Know yourself, know your children and ask yourself this key question: Is this a decision I think is best for my children, or am I reacting out of guilt or fear?
If your answer is the latter, you may want to address these powerful and often destructive emotions before making a final decision about dating after divorce.
Take things slowly and give everyone the time they need to adjust to this new world of dating after divorce.
How long after my divorce should I wait before I begin dating?
It is also critical that you remain in the role of parent and not turn into your child's best friend where you each gush about your new girl or boyfriend. Every child will react in his or her own way to a parent's dating after the divorce.