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Teens and dating going out

I heard a story about a girl who had two dozen balloons delivered to the math class of a guy she wanted to ask to Homecoming.He barely knew her and was totally embarrassed by the balloons and all the attention.

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Either he gets busted for playing games, or he gets serious and tells her that he really likes her. Sure, you could ask a general-type question like, "So, are you going to Homecoming?You can go ahead and send in the clowns (or the balloons) but chances are…you're not going to get the response you were hoping for.In tenth grade, we made friends with a group of older guys who hung out on the main street of town, which ran parallel to the local university — guys who'd once gone to our same high school and had never left the social scene. " "So, no normal 20 year old wants to hang out with someone who is 15. Stay away from him." This was the sort of thing that always led to my leaving the room in a teary huff, maintaining loudly that she Just Didn't Understand. One Saturday, the guys planned a picnic in a nearby forest park. All I had was my instinct and discomfort — a bad gut feeling. When I write novels, there is always a clear trajectory: the beginning, middle, climax, and end. When they weren't doing BMX and skateboard tricks in front of the post office, they were spending what money they had at the nearby arcade, or spinning on stools and shooting straw wrappers in their favorite burger joint, just across the street. "I don't want you hanging around with someone that much older than you." "Mom." I'm sure I rolled my eyes. Once again, she was treating me like a child, someone unable to make her own decisions. It didn't seem like such a big deal, as my best friend was doing nothing sneaking around to be with her boyfriend. Suddenly, I wasn't that scared, invisible girl anymore, watching from the sidelines. I remember it was a gorgeous fall day, crisp and cool, and the first time I'd had Brie cheese and red wine. With real life, however, and memory especially, it is harder to keep things so neat and organized. In the first, I snuck out of the house with a guy friend who lived down the street. My friend came back, we went home and I slid back into my bed. The second incident I remember happened when he was giving me a ride home. She might have thought it was an awesome way to ask him out, but he didn't appreciate it at all!

If you don't know what your girl or guy thinks is awesome, then you don't know them well enough to ask them out.

The person may be going out of town, or have other plans (not Homecoming) or agreed to go with someone else first. But even if it didn't, don't make a huge deal out of it.

Show that you've got class and maturity and say, "OK.

Hopefully your first date is with someone you know and trust and with whom you have the basis of a friendship.

If you've got all that going for you AND you're very clear about what you are and are not comfortable doing (yes, we're talking about alcohol, drugs, and sex) then you'll be fine. , is that there will be five books, the first of which will be published Fall 2008.

Annie took some time to answer our questions on awesome ways to ask out a girl or guy, just in time for Homecoming. But like I tell guys, whenever you take a risk (especially with someone you don't know all that well) you risk rejection. That doesn't mean you shouldn't do it, but you'll increase your chances of getting a positive response if you take the time to get to know the guy BEFORE you ask him out.