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I had a particularly memorable date with an architect from Detroit who was in town for an event. Ironically, I made several good male friends in my quest for true love! I hate the idea of meeting people in loud bars, but I did try speed dating, though it always felt like I was conducting weird, one-sided interviews.We chatted in a bar until it closed, then continued the conversation in his hotel room until the wee hours. As for those who didn’t work out at all, there was an arrogant and self-absorbed Kiwi who went on about his ex, was dismissive about my job in package design, and tried to psychoanalyse me based on my dating experiences. Friends respected me too much to set me up with someone, so I signed up with a local dating agency – but it couldn’t find me any matches!

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First dates usually involved getting to know each other over a meal.It’s harder than ever to meet decent guys, thanks to cyber- scammers.On average, three out of 10 guys who contact me seem suspicious – for example, they’re too eager to share personal details, volunteer many selfies or are always travelling.There are moments when I feel demoralised that I haven’t found anyone, but I distract myself by learning new skills, which boosts my self-esteem.I’ve picked up boxing, cycling, art and even writing Chinese poetry in the wake of all my failed dating attempts.After working and studying in London for three and a half years, I returned to Singapore in 1998, aged 25. I had a limited social life back in the UK – my colleagues were attached or married, and my Asian friends had gone home to their respective countries – so I spent many weekends by myself. Online dating was coming into fashion, and I was excited about giving this new avenue a shot.

A friend introduced me to dating site Asia Friendfinder, which connects Asian singles online for US$50 a month.

My mum introduced me to a friend’s son, but it was the most boring date ever.

He talked about telegraphic transfers (like I cared!

I’m pretty confident, so I was comfortable with posting a selfie and personal profile explaining who I was and what I was looking for.

I can be picky, and having studied abroad, I saw myself as independent and well-travelled.

I didn’t mind taking the initiative to message guys I was interested in, asking about their hobbies or profiles. When guys messaged me, I’d only respond to those who asked about my interests – travelling, reading and cooking.