Single guys dating women with kids
Read at your own risk.[This is this blog's most popular post.I think it holds up well and is highly relevant in today's world.
Second marriages have a higher failure rate than first marriage.Depending on what is happening with the child’s biological father, how much time the child spends around you, paying for the child, and buying gifts for the child (think birthdays, Christmas, etc.), you can end up getting tagged for child support.All it takes is some judge or government official picking YOU to pay for the child’s needs rather than taxpayers.Even if a biodad isn't in the picture right now, he can always resurface and wreak havoc unless he's dead.As you can see, whether you’re just looking for sex or you actually do want to get married (= legally obligating yourself to give at least half of everything you’ll ever earn to a woman, being held legally/financially responsible for any children she births during the marriage whether they are yours or not), you should avoid single mothers.A look at the world from a sometimes sarcastic, tongue-in-cheek, decidedly American male perspective.
Lately, this blog has been mostly about gender issues, dating, marriage, divorce, sex, and parenting via analyzing talk radio, advice columns, news stories, religion, and pop culture in general. and subcultural elements perpetuated by fellow Evangelicals, social conservatives.
That child does not need to compete with you, and you don’t need to compete with that child.
Even if you were to marry her, the child(ren) will always come first, whereas being with a childless woman means YOU come first. So you’d bond with her children and then you (and the children) would have to endure the pain of losing or restricting that bond with each other.
An unmarried mother should put her child(ren) first.
The child is already dealing with not having a mother and father married to each other and living together, and needs parental attention.
Social workers know that children in these situations are more likely to be abused by their mother’s lovers, so they’ll be more likely to believe you are a culprit.