Short guy dating problems
The man is the shorter partner in only four percent of heterosexual pairings. If you ask any height-obsessed woman — or me, a decade ago — they'll probably feed you some line about a tall man making them feel "safe" or "tiny." But let's unpack that for a second.What are we saying when we say we want a big man to make us feel tiny?
Or they're just better boyfriends because their faces are already located closer to your vagina. Want more of Bustle's Sex and Relationships coverage?Are we saying that we believe that it's sexually ideal that women take up as little space as possible, that we're at our most attractive when we look itty bitty compared to our male partner?You don't need a women's studies degree to know that that's whack.Many years ago, before I fell in love with a short guy, I was one of the many American women who only had eyes for the tall ones.I'm sure you're familiar with the situation — I salivated over any dude who was over six feet, even though, at 5' 2", being with a tall guy just meant that trying to kiss each other while standing up was not unlike trying to parallel park a compact car. And I was far from the only woman who found herself drawn to tall dudes for reasons she never quite thought through.Short men have been considered "less than" by a culture that still equates height with masculinity, and this has opened their eyes to what a crock traditional gender roles can be.
Obviously, not all short guys are male feminists, and not all tall guys are cavemen who think you should go make them a sandwich.
Imagine meeting a guy who said he'd only date girls with D cup boobs or larger. You'd also think his priorities were all out of whack — having big boobs has nothing to do with being a good partner, or even being a good lover or physically attractive. It's worth looking inside yourself, and seeing if height is what actually turns you on, or just what society has taught you to prize in a partner. A lot of men want to date a woman who is physically smaller than them, for the same reasons that a lot of women want to hook up with tall guys: that's how society says it should go, and it physically replicates our social ideas of the roles men and women should play in heterosexual relationships — that men should be big and powerful, and that women should be less powerful.
That's why a guy who's game for dating a taller woman might have more progressive ideas about dating and women in general, too — a 2014 study suggested that men 5'7" and shorter did more housework, were less likely to get divorced, and were more open to dating older women.
A 2012 survey of college students found that 89 percent of women were only interested in partners taller than them (while 47 percent of men were open to dating a woman who was taller them).
48 percent of women dating online are only interested in men who are taller than them, and a study of online dating in the New York City area found that men who fell below the average American male height of 5'9" typically had a less than five percent chance of having women reach out to them.
Plus, the idea that the only way you can feel like a "real woman" in bed is to be smaller than your partner smells like anti-feminist propaganda to me, frankly.