Rules to dating a musician
Randi Zuckerberg (sister of Facebook’s CEO, Mark Zuckerberg) says busy people, particularly entrepreneurs, can only have 3 out of these 5 work-life balance items.
From an indie perspective, this is what it takes to put out a quality project (at bare minimum). I will say this though – train delays have screwed me over in most cases where I was actually on time, but ended up being late! Some (not all) women will try to evaluate what you’ve done, who you’ve worked with, and ultimately – what they can gain from your situation.Working two jobs, and living with their parents so that they don’t have to spend money on expensive New York rent.They understand that in order to be successful you absolutely have to invest in yourself, there’s just no way around it.I’ll be writing this article based on my personal experience as a single male musician.I’m also based in New York City, which makes dating even harder.Thankfully, I have lots of skills I’ve been able to lean on to generate cash flow.
I’ve done everything from marketing consultations to offering my musicianship for hire.
For me personally, I’ve dedicated most of my time towards work, sleep, and friends.
Now this flat out sucks when it comes to fulfilling a woman’s every lingering desire, because time is the one thing that she will likely want the most.
In my past experiences, re-assuring my girlfriend that not every female artist I work with is trying to sleep with me has only been half the battle won.
The other half is doing things like inviting her to studio sessions and shows, so she can see that life as an indie musician is not a Gucci Mane music video.
I can’t tell you how many women have been overtly flirtatious with me and even pretended to be interested, just to try and get something for free.