The reasons varied, from unfamiliarity with certain races and cultures, to just down to what they found themselves attracted to.Is it racist then to have a racial preference, you ask?
I’ve met a few people who have experienced problems with online dating.That is, for whatever reasons we don't interact with certain groups offline, we also repeat this behaviour online — even though the barriers that exist in the offline aren't there online.And it's this collective behaviour that sees repeated outcomes for certain groups that constitutes as racist behaviour.In Australia, for example, even if I wanted to date within my own race, the probability of meeting someone in the same age group with shared values is not that great because of the small population of black Africans.But importantly, limiting myself to my own race also means that I get to miss out on the wonderful experience of meeting someone who has had a different lived experience to me, and being able to look at the world differently.A few weeks ago a girlfriend of mine, who happens to be a black woman, sent me a screenshot of an exchange she had with a man she came across on an online dating app.
I'm accustomed to friends sharing their ' WTF' moments, and generally I love living vicariously through their dating experiences.
Being exposed to different experiences of people from different backgrounds through film, TV and other forms of media challenges our own biases and stereotypes we may have.
Sure, stereotypes exist for a reason, and there may be some truth to them. Reducing large groups of people and dismissing their individuality limits what should be an enjoyable dating experience.
One queer man of color I know is half-Indian and half-Italian with a common Indian name.
But in online dating profiles he uses a common English first name and an Italian surname.
This particular exchange, though, was slightly different to the usual ones.