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Suddenly there was a different way to find a partner, one that promised practically infinite possibilities, where an algorithm could find you the “right” person without you needing to do the hard work of ever actually talking to them in person.
Online dating lures us with the false promise of an “ideal” partner so much that we apply filters that ensure we never get to meet that person in the first place.Unfortunately, when you’re reading the profiles of other people, it’s easy to forget that this rule applies to them, too.You know that what you’re seeing isn’t an accurate representation of them, but it doesn’t stop you from judging them on it anyway.To answer this, let’s take a look at some of the main reasons online dating doesn’t work. Researchers in the UK recently calculated the odds of finding a compatible partner if they used the average person’s requirements (in terms of desired age, physical requirements, location, and so on).They found that just over 84,440 people in the UK fit the average person’s requirements, from an adult population of 47 million. In other words, applying the average person’s filters when it comes to finding a compatible partner gives you less than a 1 in 500 chance of being successful.When you encounter one of these profiles, you haven’t met your ideal partner.
You’ve just met someone who is good at telling you what you want to hear.
Of course, online dating wouldn’t be so popular if it didn’t work for so many people.
According to some estimates, over a third of marriages in the US are now from couples who first met online.
To make matters worse, most people suck at selling themselves, and do a terrible job of their profiles.
And, of course, the ones who good at selling themselves generally do so by misrepresenting themselves to some extent.
And it gets worse the more prescriptive you are about your requirements.