Ramadan is a reminder to me that a lot of Muslims like to be seen as ‘being Muslim’ and are concerned with keeping up appearances with other Muslims and non-Muslims alike.This has led to the rise in Muslim dating apps like minder – but it’s basically brown Tinder, innit?
As I grew more confident and started talking to boys, I figured out what I liked and what I didn’t.It’s unspoken of in the community – incomprehensible.Rumours circulate amongst my relatives in India that, due to being unmarried, I’m either gay or suffering a terminal illness, most likely both.Although you could always see cracks, problems were hidden to save face and avoid the shame of having to own up to being human and having hit a stumbling block.Doing stand-up has been a great way for me to express exactly how I’m feeling about sex and dating and it’s shown people that Muslims are not ‘all the same’.I also learnt that in my experience men prefer to chase than be chased.
The few times I have made the first move didn’t even lead to a first date, and guys never ask me out.
Muslim women like me – rounded, complicated, emotive and above all horny – aren’t even supposed to exist.
I was brought up with two options: have an arranged marriage or don’t. If you didn’t want to get married you’d be akin to a stray dog, a social outcast.
For example, all Muslims believe there is no god but Allah, that Muhammad acted as Allah’s messenger, and that the Koran is Allah’s recitation.
There are certain customs that all Muslims are expected to follow, but since Islam is interpreted in many ways across many cultures, it is difficult to make sweeping generalizations.
Maybe, by being too modest through my early years, I’ve now gone too far the other way?