Importance of dating after marriage
You need to feel at ease with each other as you face new challenges together. If you and your spouse aren’t currently dating, we want to encourage you to get into that habit.
But if you’re going to spend the money on the date and a babysitter anyway, then make the date count!It’s what we call having a "date with a purpose." Intentionally give your time together a purpose beyond just sharing an event. Put him or her in the spotlight and nurture your marriage relationship. If you walk, go somewhere you won’t run into people you know.Here are a couple of date ideas to plan for your mate to help you begin dating with a purpose: Getting cozy with coffee. Choose a place where you’re not likely to run into anyone you know. You can go for dinner, a couple of big cups of specialty coffee or a dessert. Don’t think about calories or how much that big cup of cappuccino is costing – just do it! If you drive, preferably head out to a rural road where you won’t deal with traffic.The main part of the date is not necessarily what you do, but how you do it. There’s a difference between making sandwiches, packing a picnic basket and blanket so that you can have a picnic at the park, and stopping by Subway grabbing a foot long and eating in the car together.Putting in the extra effort can majorly change your date. That’s a fact,” said psychologist and relationship expert Melanie Schilling.Do you remember when you first met the person who would become your husband or wife? Many of us look back with fondness on those carefree dating days, except they weren’t carefree at the time!
We worried about everything – from where the date would be and how to dress, to how to impress the other person.
We needed to be intelligent, spiritual, witty, interesting, communicative, accommodating and an all around well-balanced and likable person. As you began dating one person exclusively, you wondered if this person was "the one" for you. If we’re honest, many of us would not want to go back and do all over again.
Yet many things about our dating experiences were good.
And we want to help you recapture the good aspects of the dating experience – the romance, the surprise, the fun, the undivided attention, the discovery – want to date this person?
Of course, that person is your spouse, your mate for life.
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