Female pastors dating
There is a very legitimate fear that the relationship could go wrong and cause irreparable damage to the minister's "follow-ability." To some it could seem that the minister is putting their own desires before their responsibility for the good of the congregation.
If these months clarify that the minister's heart is focused well on Christ and that the desire to better know the person of the opposite gender is God-honoring then the minister moves on to the next step of preparation.Imagine this: The minister has been in the congregation for a while.During these months or years the minister has become aware of another single adult, of the opposite gender, in the congregation.The "male/female" perspective could prove to be priceless at this stage.If you are from a western society something inside of you may rebel against having others involved in an accountability and discerning role, but please listen. Even if his or her heart is pure it is just too big a risk for the greater good, so "absolutely not!
The minister could be seen as desperate and preying on the singles of the church.
In a worse case scenario they will notice something that is harmful and give needed warnings for either changes in the relationship or even to end the relationship.
In a best case scenario they will give testimony to the godliness of your relationship and give their full support of a possible marriage as the relationship grows. You may want to rebel against these last few sentences, but if you are a minister of a congregation then your life is no longer totally yours.
Our emotions and our longings are too strong to walk through this alone.
For the sake of your heart, their heart, and the health of the congregation please submit yourselves to the Holy Spirit and to others.
They are there to help you see any "blindspots" that may emerge as your emotions get more involved in the possibility of a relationship with this person of the opposite gender.