Early months of dating
Instead, a man will normally go through certain stages first before he decides you’re “it.” Here’s what they are, and how to handle them so he’s comfortable to move forward: In the early stages of dating, you take on one of two roles: the Convincer or the Resistor.It’s important for you to be the Resistor and not the Convincer.
Even though you may want a man to “just know” early on that you’re the only one for him, things usually don’t work this way with most men.He sees you as a woman who doesn’t simply have an agenda to be in a committed relationship, but rather as a woman who genuinely wants to be in a relationship with him.Understanding emotional attraction and how it works is absolutely critical if you want to create a connected, lasting relationship with a man.But I really don't buy that simply a series of glances right off the bat proves an accurate predictor of emotional connection potential.I understand that a lot of senses go into play when biology goes behind our backs and forms or doesn't form a solid attraction.It’s where you’ll be more curious about where things are going and wondering what his actions mean.
The important thing to keep in mind during this stage is that it’s normal – yes, a man will spend time with you before fully committing.
So let’s see how we feel about things over the next few weeks or months (set a time here you feel comfortable with), and we’ll decide if there’s something more serious that we both want.”When you say this to a guy, there’s an unconscious button that’s pushed in his mind that tells him that you are a respectable and desirable woman who has the ability and the strength to pick and choose what happens in your life, and he better rise to the occasion.
By focusing on having fun and getting to know him during the first two stages, you’ve taken the pressure off of him, and he can naturally relax into the relationship.
That’s because the Convincer is the one who makes sure you spend time together and who pursues the Resistor.
If you are the one doing the convincing, you do not create the space to see if HE will step forward and pursue YOU. Your “resistance” will also inspire him to want to pursue you, rather than resist progress in your relationship.
Does a harmony still exist while vertical for longer than it takes to pass a club line? Conversely, you gotta make sure what you're starting isn't just a super great, platonic friendship (which are needed, too, duh). If it cools right away—as in, one month in—that isn't super promising.