Dating with no career
If you love him, this wouldn't matter, but clearly it does. Personally I can settle with someone with less money.
He has been bringing up the subject of marriage recently, but when I imagine us together in five years, I can picture myself being the only breadwinner.He wants me to be by his side to help him open his martial arts school, but all I can imagine is myself working hard to provide money for him to practice karate all day. Is it unreasonable for me to want to break up with him, based on the fact that he will probably never be able to provide any type of financial support? my ex is now in the British Army but he has no plans beyond that and he didn't have any before he joined either.he is very bright and I tried to talk him into going to uni but he has no ambitions beyond landscaping work and working for the post office - or similar manual jobs - after he comes out of the army.Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick!Some forums can only be seen by registered members.U can't have an intelligent conversation with someone who has much lower education. everyone should have ambition however remember the world is in a recession and sometimes it is hard to hit those high salaries now.
I hear stories about people who kill themselves because their ideal life of fast cars,nice big house and a few kids has been ruined because of being laid off etc. For me living the high life isn't important though I would like to be comfortable and afford things.
unfortunately that just enforced the view in my mind that we had no future together.
I don't mind earning more than my partner (I am an Analyst) but I would like him to have long term potential, I don't want to work 15-hour days to be able to buy a house, ideally it should be a joint financial venture No, it's not unreasonable for you to break up with him. Silvermoon, It may be that you are realizing that you are not in love with him. It takes time to know someone well enough to figure out if they would make a good life partner or not.
My current boyfriend is a nice guy, but he is also unambitious.
I am enrolled in graduate school, and I am working very hard to create a successful future for myself.
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