So strike the phrase "Asian persuasion" from your vocabulary. The dating scene for transgender women offers a unique set of challenges that cisgender — someone whose gender identity matches their biological sex — women don’t have to deal with.
I Googled everything I wanted to know as I came to terms with my gender identity, so spare the textbook talk with a Google search, a book, or an actual classroom.As Janet Mock, author of We Didn’t Transition Just to Date Straight Men. Trans women don’t transition to fool straight men into sleeping with us.This disgusting form of ignorance has been sensationalized in both television and film.Christine Jorgenson was a World War II veteran, but ask anyone familiar with Jorgenson and they’ll be surprised.No one knows anything about her other than the fact that she was the first trans woman to receive genital reconstruction surgery.There are vast amounts of tools for knowledge — don’t be afraid to use them.
In fact, consider being educated your responsibility. The job market is a huge barrier for trans women and poverty is high among our demographic.
Pro-tip: Refill everyone else's cup before your own, going from oldest to youngest. Prepare for a lifetime of finding knots of long black hairs in the shower drain, in the vacuum cleaner, on the carpet, everywhere, all the time.
So I'm neurotic about some aspect of that, whether it's my weight or the particular paleness of my skin or my big feet or what have you.
” or something similar isn’t a compliment — it’s just rude.
The message that is being conveyed to trans women with this type of exchange is that we’re engaging in a form of trickery, a disguise to pass as something we’re not.
Fetishization, discrimination, harassment, and even homicide aren’t unheard of for us, but it doesn’t have to be this way.