Dating successful people
😉 ) As with anything in life, there are usually all sorts of fears that are getting in the way of meeting, and committing to, a long-term partner. Who in their right mind would want to date someone who was going around saying they didn’t need to be with anyone?
Oath will also provide relevant ads to you on our partners' products.You need to get clear on what (or who) it is you’re looking for if you’re to have any chance of finding it, and of knowing that you’ve found it when you do. (I don’t want to be smug but I wrote a list in my notepad a couple of years ago and my partner matches all of them. A few examples of underlying beliefs: “I don’t need a partner (but I want one).” “I don’t want to come across as being needy and desperate.” “I’d rather be alone than with the wrong person.” “I’m independent and I want my freedom.” “I’ve never met someone who ticked all the boxes.” “All the good ones are taken.” Can you see how those beliefs might be limiting your chances of meeting someone?Close your eyes and try to visualise your ideal partner: · How do they make you feel? Well except one, but sometimes there’s a compromise to be made… (I certainly could when I wrote down pages and pages of thoughts like these a couple of years ago.This was due in part to my shyness (I just wasn’t confident enough to speak to strangers, let alone someone I fancied) and in part my ego (I didn’t want to admit that I liked someone in case they didn’t like me back).But it’s pretty clear that this isn’t a particularly effective strategy!I simply mean thinking about the kind of partner you’d like to meet (see point 1 above) and how you can make that more likely.
So, for example, you can look at where and how you’re currently spending your time.
Then, suddenly, you wake up one day and look around you to find that *everyone* has married and popped out at least two children.
And, like Hillary Clinton, you ask yourself: “What happened?
In my opinion and my personal experience, these are four steps that are as effective in the area of love and relationships as they are in career, business, and any other areas of your life.
Get clear on what you want, work out what’s stopping you, come up with strategies, and set yourself up for success with the support structures that you need to move forward.
Then when I asked myself that second question, about being open to meeting someone, the answer was ‘no’ there too.