Dating depressed girlfriend
Every time you see them, they tirelessly try to play different music in an effort to bring your hearing back. At first, you might be flattered that they are trying to help you. Since they seem so intent on helping, you might try to explain the flaw in their plan by explaining that it doesn’t matter what music they play— the problem is that you can’t actually HEAR IT. You might also feel embarrassed that you weren’t able to please them by using their solutions and feeling the way they expect you to feel.That’s what it’s like for her when you try and help her remove these “blinders” you say she’s wearing.
Is there anything I can do to help her see past those blinders?In the case of clinical depression, sadness might not actually be her current experience at all.Your depressed girlfriend might actually feel numb, nothing, or a nagging emptiness.First, I’m not a licensed medical professional and this is not medical advice.If you or a loved one requires professional counseling, therapy or other intervention, please consult the appropriate professionals.This article was co-authored by Trudi Griffin, LPC.
Trudi Griffin is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Wisconsin.
I’m glad your depressed girlfriend already has a treatment team in place.
If you hadn’t mentioned she was seeking treatment for depression, I would have suggested that you help her get in contact with the appropriate mental health professionals as your first step.
If you’re naturally a caretaker type of person, the subconscious fact you have a new “project,” namely “Help Fix My Girlfriend’s Depression” can be a really, really seductive idea. While you didn’t cause her depression, can’t cure it and it’s not your responsibility, I deeply respect your desire to help her or at least not make things worse.
So, with that said, here’s how help your girlfriend with depression.
Encourage her to think positively about treatment, and offer to help hold her accountable for going through with it.