Dating after devorce
Society is much more accepting of singles than even a decade ago, when solo restaurant diners often got the hairy eyeball.
Maybe you're relieved, maybe you're heartbroken -- or a bit of both."You may feel remorse for what you did or didn't do, or wonder what you did wrong.Don't dwell on those feelings, but make room for them," Falk says. There is an empty space where something once filled it up, even if that something may not have been desirable." Don't tote that heavy baggage from your previous relationship into your new life.Maybe it's trying a new sport, considering a different place of worship, or going back to college.Maybe you realize that you'd like to move to a new city or even spend a year living in Paris."It's common to sweep these emotions under the table, but you have to work through them or they'll pollute your life going forward," Alberti says.
If you find yourself resisting the idea of therapy, you might want to keep in mind that therapy doesn't mean you have a problem or that you're in crisis.
But however you got here, the question now is where do you go from here?
And how do you figure out who you are and what you want as a newly single person?
Maybe you always loved going to the theater but your husband hated it. "Exercising your interest in those again is important to rebuilding yourself." The life-changing period of divorce, though often difficult and unwelcome, holds a silver lining: to shake things up and try on a new lifestyle.
"What were your hobbies and activities before the marriage? Maybe it's as simple as a pixie haircut after a lifetime of wearing long, flowing locks.
Find a way to work through the lingering emotions from the demise of your marriage, advises psychologist Robert Alberti, Ph D, co-author of Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends.