Dating advice beginning relationship
This will provide you a chance to get to know him or her well and will also provide a buffer and accountability against getting too emotionally intimate too early.Many people want to start out a relationship by spending a huge amount of time alone together.
So with all that said, let’s consider how the principle of caring for one another well in the early stages of a relationship might look.Remember, your intent at this point is not necessarily marriage — and that’s not what either of you are committing to at this stage.You’re simply committing to get to know her a little better in an intentional way to evaluate whether the two of you should then consider marriage to one another.From there, you obviously need a response from the woman to know whether or not things will go any further.If you know the woman from church, if you’ve seen her interact in a group, observed her with others, maybe worked with her as a part of some ministry, that input should be enough for you to think through the decision of whether initiation of a relationship is the right thing.Let me say it again: We’re trying to make intentions clear, here, not asking anyone to commit to go the distance with no information.
There are biblical and unbiblical reasons for a man to initiate with a woman, and there are biblical and unbiblical reasons for turning a man down.
Guys, tell her why you have initiated or are initiating with her, tell her that you intend to pursue the relationship to determine if marriage is the right choice before God.
In my view, this establishing of intentions should be done near the beginning of any exclusive or romantic time spent together — preferably within the first two or three “dates” during a deliberate conversation on the subject.
Guys, don’t wait until you’ve had lunch or dinner or “hung out” one-on-one four or five times before you let her know what’s going on.
The idea is to remove that period of confusion or vulnerability for the woman by being forthright about what level of intention or commitment exists (a la 1 Thessalonians 4).
If you feel that you are not initially attracted to a man who initiates with you, OK — but at least ask yourself why that is.