Some insecure men will also idealize men in successful positions or men who seem to “have it all” on the surface: the pretty younger girlfriend, the family man whose home life always seems happy and free of problems or tensions, or the bachelor who has freedom and social excitement in his life.
They are bean counters, never missing a beat about who has what, and who has the better or worse version of this or that.But if you don’t feel like that, you could always go talk to someone for a few sessions.” What he does with that suggestion is something that only he can control. Seth is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, Psychology Today blogger, and TV guest expert.He practices in Los Angeles and treats a wide range of issues and disorders and specializes in relationships, parenting, and addiction.While a handful of men will admit to you and themselves that they are insecure, most men are too ashamed and embarrassed of their insecurities to admit it to themselves, let alone you.This point is important because, at the end of the article, we will discuss whether it’s a good idea for you to tell him just how insecure he is.The truth, though, is that people can always smell anxiety a mile away, and insecure men are full of internal anxieties.
Insecure men are often bubbling with anger under the surface, and their anger or bitterness is noticeable in situations at work and in their social lives.
In other words, remember that no one wants to feel the way that insecure man feels, and that the poor guy hasn’t quite figured out how to “be” yet in his life.
If you start dating an insecure man, don’t play therapist and psychoanalyze him: “I think these are your insecurities.” Instead of turning him into your patient, say this instead: “I think you’re awesome, and I think you’re fine as is.
The problem is that they only feel better for the moment.
Ten minutes later, for example, that feeling of being good enough will be gone and they are going to need more reassurance.
If you want to feel frustrated on a regular basis in your relationship, date someone who is insecure and defensive.