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Dating a shy coworker

If a man isn’t a good fit for you, The Rules will “work” by revealing early on that you are incompatible.That may seem like a disappointing result at first, but it's a powerful gift in the long run. Study my flirting tips if you want to know how to enchant a man who tends toward a more subtle, quiet personality.

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There are 14 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page.Extroverts can hold their own and fight fire with fire.But if you admire a man with a more subtle style, you have to be careful not to overwhelm him with your eagerness, or nudge him into "going along" passively with your agenda.That's not "dating a shy man," that's accepting crumbs from a guy who is just killing time.Let’s go through these scenarios, one by one, and note the difference between a true Shy Guy and one whose feelings are simply lukewarm: As Rules women know, we don’t “do the rules” on men.You could find yourself in an entanglement with a man who's not really sure how or why he got there.

FROM ASTRID & MIYUIf you identify with any of these situations, I will let you in on a secret: the “problem” in each of these scenarios is not that the man is shy or inexperienced.

But I don’t know many women who enjoy being the good-enough-for-now option.

If each woman in situations 1 - 7 were to get the ball rolling herself, or help the man date her and make excuses for his behavior, she would simply be prolonging the agony of being in a go-nowhere entanglement.

The underlying issue is that he is just not interested enough in starting up a relationship with that particular woman.

Sure, he’d be okay with having casual sex with her and hanging out until something better comes along.

This article was co-authored by Klare Heston, LICSW.