Cardinal rules of dating
This is the first comparisson we make with another individual – call it ‘sizing up’ if you like – but we make innate (and often unconscious) comparisons about and in the case of initial attraction we decide if the the other person is acceptable for our own intimacy.
After all, your pessimistic energy will be palpable to the people around you while simultaneously affecting your behavior in general.You are acceptable to her for meeting any number of criteria and she meets your own as well.If this weren’t the case you simply would not initiate a mutual relationship.relationship, not just intersexual ones, but family, business, etc. And while I am also a vital part for the uninterrupted continuance of his company and endeavours, he simply needs me less than I need him. For my own well being and that of my family’s, I need my employer more than he needs me, ergo I get up for work in the morning and work for him.Now I could win the lottery tomorrow or he may decide to cut my pay or limit my benefits, or I may complete my Masters Degree and decide that I can do better than to keep myself yoked to his cart indefinitely, thereby, through some condition either initiated by myself or not, I am put into a position of needing him less than he needs me.
At this point he is forced into a position of deciding how much I am worth to his ambitions and either part ways with me or negotiate a furtherance of our relationship. Whether you want to base your relationship on ‘power’ or not isn’t the issue; it’s already in play from your first point of attraction.
In other words, you shouldn’t feel pressured or obligated to move faster than you’d like to and/or engage in any activity that you’re not ready for, and that goes for both in and out of the bedroom.
Remember, if you want to have a shot at turning a dating relationship into a serious commitment, you get to call the shots and go at your own pace.
And speaking of setting your own pace, it’s important that you take some of the stress off of yourself and recognize that finding that perfect person won’t necessarily happen overnight.
After all, if you put pressure on yourself to just settle down already, you’re more likely to put yourself in a position where you have to settle for less.
In an unhealthy realationship you have an unbalanced manipulation of this control by a partner.